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I was waiting for the call this morning to see when I would pickup the kids. Since they spent the day with their mother on Thanksgiving, I would then get them the next day and through the weekend.

My ex called the house a few minutes after 9AM and left a message for me to call her back. She ended with a little chuckle in her voice.

I called right back and she started with “So what are you doing?”

I responded with something to the effect of “well what is your timing like?”

She then continued that she had a problem with the fact that during the previous week, I had driven the kids to visit my family and that because I had my girlfriend and her son in the car as well that there were too many people and not enough seat belts.

We had buckled my son and my girlfriend’s son together in the back seat – and just so you get a visual picture of this- together they barely make one teen. I have a very large back seat and all 4 kids fit just fine shoulder to shoulder. It must have fit fine as I heard no complaining about it through the whole ride there and back.

My ex stated that my son is still underweight for his age (6 – going to be 7 in 3 weeks) and he must be in a car seat. “Where is your car seat?” she asked me. I told her I didn’t have it with me and asked her if she had one to loan me. “Yes!” she responded, “but what about your girlfriend’s son?” I told her that he was not with us this weekend (he’s going with his Dad). “Well you’re either going to have to look into getting a larger car that can fit everyone or you’ll have to take two cars everywhere.”

I then had the sinking feeling I wasn’t going to get anywhere on the phone and I could see that my chances of getting the kids today was fleeting away.

I asked if she didn’t want me to take them today as I figured that was where this was going and if that was the case I didn’t need to be on the phone with this crazy lady anymore. She only responded that “it was up to me?” but then she moved on to other topics such as it was my fault that the kids had to leave their school district and how I have ruined their lives because of it. This of course is just her twisted way of blaming me for the fact that her and her new husband (who she only knew for 9 months before marrying him and only let the kids know that she got married a week later) moved them out of the school district they were living in.

It went on for a few more minutes and then she said she had to call me back and she hung up. I tried calling back a few more times, but they all went to voicemail.

My guess is her new husband either woke up or walked into the room and she could not continue ranting and raving. While I am sure he has had enough hints dropped on him as to what a psycho she really is – he is probably not putting 2 & 2 together enough to clearly understand what he has really done to himself and his family. He of course is only hearing things from her side and I can’t blame him for doing so as I did that when I was married to her. You stand by your wife and be supportive. You think in your own head that the things she is saying about other people are unquestionably true. They must be true or why else would she say things like that?

For years my ex slowly dropped people in her life and I was too stupid to catch on that it really wasn’t them it was her. For one reason or another they crossed her and when you cross my ex – you’re done.

That’s the message I have for my ex wife’s new husband. While I am somewhat upset at you for blindly following her directions and removing all my personal belongings from the marital house, the sabotage of the heater, the turning off of the electric and propane, the changing of locks and tearing of window screens, the boarding up of doors and the breaking through along with the removal of the home appliances and light fixtures – I realize that you were just following orders. If you want to get along with her, that’s what you better do, but you should know that what she had you do was wrong and she had no right to do it. You have no idea of what she has put me and the kids through for the last 3 years. If you doubt me just ask any one of HER family members for the details. You could ask her sister or brother or maybe ask one of the kid’s god-parents or maybe one of her friends from years past. Oh wait, you can’t. She stopped talking to all of them a while ago because for one reason or another, in Josie’s mind, they crossed her. I was just next on the list Ron, because she ran out of other people to disown. You’re next up to bat Ron. I sort of feel bad for you, despite the smirk on my face.

For now I’ll wait for her to call back.